Talking to Your Children About Sex

Sexual health is an important part of overall health.

It involves more than just anatomy and reproduction; it includes understanding feelings, self-respect, healthy relationships, hygiene, identity, online safety, and mental health.

Why is talking about sexual health important?

• In 2023. there were about 13 pregnancies for every 1000 females aged 15-19
• In 2024, there were 400 cases of chlamydia in our region and the highest rates were among females aged 15-24
• Gonorrhea is most common locally among females in their 20s and males in their 20s and 30s

Sexual Health Curriculum in Ontario Schools

Sexual health topics are taught in our Ontario schools' curriculum. For more information about health topics covered by grade, please visit the Government of Ontario website.

Parents, schools and communities need to work together to provide accurate information to support students in making informed choices.

Supporting your child's learning at home

As a parent, it's important to teach your child about sexual health, which includes: hygiene, health relationships, sexuality and consent.

Children view their parents as trusted role models, having open discussions is important for helping them make informed decisions.

Here are some tips for addressing sexual health conversations:

Start Anytime: It's never too late to begin the conversation; don't worry about covering everything at once.

Use Simple and Age-Appropriate Language: Tailor your explanations to your child's age and understanding.

Empower Body Ownership: Teach your child that their body is theirs and they have the right so say no to unwanted touch.

Use Proper Terminology: This clarity helps children understand and communicate about their bodies, helping in protection against abuse.

Find Teachable Moments: Use social media, tv, ads, music and everyday situations to discuss relevant topics and share your values.

Gauge Their Knowledge: Ask your child what they know to guide the conversation and correct any misconceptions.

Discuss Values Beyond Facts: Encourage open dialogue about values and beliefs rather than just delivering information.

Provide Resources: Have age-appropriate books and materials available for your child to explore.

Embrace Learning Together: You don’t need to have all the answers; learning together can be beneficial. You will learn from each other.

Listen Carefully and Encourage Discussion: Create an environment where your child feels comfortable sharing their thoughts.

Teach Social Norms: Teach what is considered appropriate or inappropriate behavior in different contexts.

Respond Promptly: Answer questions as they come up to show that these topics are important and worth discussing. If you don’t know the answer, you can find out together.

Research shows that when families communicate openly and honestly about sexuality and share their values, children are better equipped to make thoughtful and responsible choices. In early childhood, these conversations help kids learn how to say ‘no’ to inappropriate sexual advances from adults. As they grow older, open communication supports teens in resisting peer pressure related to sexual activity they may not be ready for. Talking with children also helps them navigate confusing emotions and thoughts about relationships and sexuality. When parents are approachable and willing to talk, children feel supported and understood, which strengthens the parent-child bond and keeps communication open in the future.

“But I don’t want to encourage anything…”

Some parents worry that discussing sexuality might encourage sexual behavior. However, this isn’t the case. Young people already have ideas about sex, making it even more important for parents to start the conversation, offer information, and share their personal values.

Overall, these things can help create a supportive environment for talking about sexual health and can empower your child to make informed choices.

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